May 14, 2010
I Caught the Garter! Now What?
Everyone at the wedding reception lines up. The garter is tossed. And, lucky you. You caught the wedding garter! But, now what?
Catching the wedding garter after the garter tossed at a wedding reception can be a confusing situation. Should I keep it? Wear it? Put it on my head and dance around?
Traditionally, the person who catches the wedding garter is supposed to be the next person to be married. It is typically all of the single men that get together to catch the garter and then whoever catches it is supposed to pass it onto their future bride. (Read my post about wedding garter history here.)
Although, in this day and age, I think we can all agree that this part of the wedding garter tradition has seen better times. Most men aren’t naive enough to think that if they catch the garter they will the next in line to the alter. And, most brides want their own stylish wedding garter, unless, of course the caught garter was once a family member’s garter. Nor do I think that only the single men should be the ones available to catch the garter (or the bouquet). Read my rant here.
This still leaves the question: what should you do with the caught garter? Well, what do you do with the garter depends on who you are and what you personally want to do with it. Here are a list of possible options…
Give It Back
Many brides want to keep their wedding garter after their wedding. It is a small little wedding keepsake. The nice thing to do if you catch the garter is ask the bride if she wants it back. If the bride is busy, give the garter to one of her bridesmaids or the maid of honor to pass it on. (She might not because she planned on loosing it as a tossing garter.) Do this after you take lots of funny and super proud pictures with the bridal garter, of course!
You won the garter fair and square, so it is technically your right to keep the wedding garter after you catch it. You can try your luck as the next person to get married and pass the garter onto your future bride (if she will take it). You could give the garter to a friend or family member, which is a nice gesture if the bride was a family member, herself, making the garter a little family heirloom. Heck, you could even hang the bridal garter from your rear-view mirror! The options are endless of what to do with the garter prize.
Get Silly & Loose It
From the weddings that I’ve been to, this option is generally what happens. Someone catches the wedding garter, they have a little fun with it and then they have no idea what happens to the garter by the end of the night. As a bride once told me, the last time she saw her wedding garter it was around the head of one of the groomsmen. As the garter-catcher, get silly and have some fun! Who knows where the night will take you!
As the modern and unique garter designer that I am, I’m going to advise on option #1, but all of the other suggestions have their place too!
More garter questions? Check out my garter 101 blog series!
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Good article. Like the idea of returning it or get silly with it but that is just me. I have a question though. Have 4 garters caught at 4 different weddings over a span of a few years. I am now married after many many years. I know who one of them belongs to. Should I return that one and/or just pitch/throw away all of them?
Posted by: quinn · May 5, 2013 at 7:47 pm